I am a Christian but my husband is not. My husband still goes to fellowship meetings with me, so he is frequently surrounded by Christians. After gatherings, he confides in me about his experiences and observations.
I sit there. I listen. I respond.
Sometimes I am hurt by my eternal family’s behavior at church and in the media. I actually agree with him sometimes, but I also know that everyone who says they are a Christian may not be.
There are many things that Christians do or say that repeal him and upset me, and he told me that these things assist in keeping him on the opposing team. Here are a few…
1. Don’t be Scared To Admit That You Don’t Have The Answer
As Christians, we should not be afraid to say that we don’t have the answer to something, especially when we are trying to witness to someone.
Don’t try to win the argument if the Holy Spirit does not give you the answer at that moment.
This will only put your mind in a confused state, which will frustrate you. Your lack of spiritual knowledge does not mean that the person has defeated God.
If you are witnessing to someone, tell the person that there is definitely an answer, and you will have to get back with him or her.
Go pray about, and read your Word. God may give you the answer. We are constantly evolving in Christ. You may know it at some point, or maybe you will find out when you pass on.
Just be honest.
2. Don’t Poke fun Or Ridicule Other Beliefs
I have actually seen people in my family laugh at certain people’s beliefs.
Seriously, this is not cool.
When Paul went to Greece, he was distressed about the idols he saw. He did not laugh at the people there. He complimented them by telling them that they were religious enough to have a statue that read “To An Unknown God.” He related and understood their culture, and he shared the real Truth with them. (Acts 17:16-32)
I know I don’t particularly like it when people make fun of my Faith, so it is not a good idea to do it to someone else. These people do not understand what they are doing or believing in. You should show love to these people; pray for them and whole heartily try to witness to them.
3. Don’t Judge People Who Are Not In Your Eternal Family
When you see Christians in your fellowship doing something that contradicts the Bible, they are quietly taken aside and shown their err in Word. If they continue to live in sin, a leader will tell the person to come back to fellowship gatherings when they have repented and are striving to live right. (1 Corinthians 5:13)
You can also observe the fruits of fellow Christians to see if their actions correspond with the Bible. (Matthew 7:16)
But you should not judge the world. You should try to save them though. (1 Corinthians 5:12)
4. Don’t Smother The Potential Follower With Overbearing Witnessing Techniques
Well, lets be honest, most people do not want to hear what you’re saying anyway, and you really don’t want to turn the experience into a negative one.
If someone is not interested in what you have to say, you can move on. Don’t keep following them around, or throw the word ‘hell’ at them.
This will began to look weird, and cops may arrive shortly.
You have planted a seed; perhaps someone else will water it.
5. Please Don’t Flaunt Your “Before Christ” Business In Front Of The Service
We have heard ministers and other Christians get up in front of the church and talk about all the women they have been with, how many women were in their (ahem) sessions, and how “fine” the women were. Then they talk about how they gave all that up for God.
Well, okay. That’s nice. But did I need to hear the extras? You really should not talk about your pass exploits in a flattering way; it almost seems like some of these people are proud of their dirt. Other people need to learn the proper place and time to share certain things.
Christians should share their story to help others, but what is their intent? People should feel ashamed about their scarred past, and they should be thankful they are forgiven and cleansed.
These are just a few things we talk about. I think Christians should remember that non-believers are observing them, seeing a glimpse of how we “Christians” act.
We only strive to be perfect.
But maybe some of us need to strive a little harder.